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Michael's Story

I met a girl two years ago that I didn't know very well and it resulted in
an invitation back to her place. We were physically engaged in each other
and when it came to a point of decision, she told me that she was on birth
control and that everything was ok. I knew her from a good friend and
"assumed" that she was telling the truth.

With the clear absence of condoms, we made a decision based on her absolute
verbal confirmation of her inability to be in danger because she was, in
fact, on "the pill".

I have been in long relationships since I was a teenager and all involving
"the pill" and never was there a problem and even back then, it would have
been a welcomed child.

A few weeks later, I received a phone call at work from her telling me that
she was pregnant. I was devastated. Especially since I had no feeling for
this girl and she had none, to my knowledge, for me. I automatically
insisted that she terminate the pregnancy as this would devastated both of
our lives in the worst way. She agreed and we left it at that. I then
received notification from her on an instant messenger that she was, a month
later, deciding to keep the child. I almost fainted. I implored her in the
most severe way..to "please, please..reconsider this!!" You will destroy
both of our lives. She then insisted that this was HER decision and that
she will take care of the child and I still insisted over and over knowing
that there is no way possible that she would never come back and bite me on
this. She said that she has a supportive family and that she wants the
child and that she will never involve me in this at all. She was then to
move away to Calgary many hundreds of miles away from here in Montreal to
pursue this motherhood. I still continued to plead with her to not do this.
I said "please consider adoption if you must have the child!!"...I told her
that I cannot be a part of this.

I have a girlfriend that I have planned on becoming engaged with this
summer, we both are planning this. She will now, not be with me because
last Friday, two years after all of this was over, in my thoughts, at
least...she is now suing me for 6 thousand dollars in retroactive support
from the date of the child's birth and $282 in montly payments.

I have no money, I have barely enough to eek by on my own with bills owing
and trying to find any opportunity to save to buy a ring for my girlfriend
so we can get married and start our own family. All my dreams are
shattered. I was lied to on three accounts > " I am on birth control", "I
will abort", "I will never bother you about this child for money or any
support because it will be my decision". All of this is a completely
accurate account. 100%

I am purely devastated.I don't know where to turn. What rights do I have??
How can someone manipulate me and get away with this?? How can the courts
allow this to happen? I am running out of hope of ever being able to live
my life again. Children are precious but I don't believe in anything
outside of Love and Wedlock. I would rather adopt a strange child than be
anything to a blood child that I never wanted with someone that I now
despise.

This woman has tarnished my love forever and I am at my wit's end. Feel
free to share this story if it will make a difference to anyone. It isn't
fair. I have been duped.

More people need to be careful..I don't know what the precedence on someone
winning something like this is.but...here is a link to an interesting story:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/americas/4789090.stm

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